5 Toast Ideas for the Best Man

The best man traditionally offers the first toast at a wedding. His toast can offer a thought provoking look at married life, honor his friendship with the groom or reveal intimate and often embarrassing details of the couple’s courtship. The traditional toast is simply a short speech given verbally but best men are free to try other approaches to the toast such as a slideshow or a video presentation. The best man could also choose to give a verbal toast with a few new twists.

The traditional best man’s toast is a verbal speech that is given early in the reception. Although it is unoriginal, this type of toast is widely accepted and popular. If the best man is married himself, he may want to take this opportunity to offer the couple some sage advice for enjoying a happy and peaceful marriage. He may also wish to simply state why he admires the bride and the groom and offer his best wishes. Still another popular option for this traditional version of a best man’s toast is to regale the guests with a slew of stories from the groom’s wilder days. This, however, is not recommended at a wedding attended by mostly conservative guests as this can be embarrassing to both the couple and the guests.

A slideshow is on increasingly popular way for the best man to toast the new couple. You could take the opportunity to display various pictures of the bride and groom separately and as a couple. One option is to interview both parents prior to the wedding and ask them to contribute pictures of their child from when they were a baby until now. You would ask the parents a series of questions about the bride or grooms childhood, adolescence and adult life. Then you could take the pictures and arrange them in a slideshow presentation that you could narrate with information gleaned from your interviews. This type of toast is especially popular with the older generation in attendance at the wedding because many of them knew the bride or groom as children and will enjoy reminiscing about those times through the pictures and stories.

If the best man is linguistically inclined he may also wish to write a short poem or song about the couple. This poem or song could either be sweet and sentimental or funny and potentially embarrassing to the couple. Although the best man may be making the same points that he would in giving a traditional speech, the use of a poem or song to convey the sentiment makes it more original and amusing for the guests.

A video presentation is another unique way to make the best man’s toast. One way to do this is to arrange meetings with close friends and family members and ask them a series of questions about love and relationships and videotape their answers. You could then videotape yourself giving a short toast and introducing the other members on the tape. This is an excellent idea for the best man who is afraid that he will forget what he wants to say on the wedding day. The video allows him to practice his speech and record it over and over again until it is perfect.

Another original toast idea is the idea of memory boxes. The best man could talk to the parents of the bride and groom ahead of time and obtain a few objects from their pasts such a photos, childhood security blankets and special gifts from loved ones. The bet man would put each of these items into one of the boxes and leave the other one empty. When it comes time for the toast the best man could present the couple with the filled box. He would then open the box and explain the story behind each of the memory items. When he is done with the first box, he could present the couple with the second box and explain that this box is for the couple to fill up with keepsakes of the memories that they will share together.

There are a variety of toasting options available to the best man. Whether he chooses to speak from the heart with an unprepared speech or invest time prior to the wedding to put together an elaborate presentation, the toast is sure to be appreciated as long as the best man is speaking from his heart.

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How to Become a Better Listener

Listening is an integral part of the communication process but it is also the part that is overlooked most frequently. Many people spend a great deal of time polishing their speaking skills but put little or no effort into becoming a better listener. The art of listening really isn’t very difficult and you can improve your listening skills in just a few simple steps.

Perhaps the most important tip for being a better listener is to give the speaker your undivided attention. Be sure to concentrate on the speakers words and resist the temptations to tune out their message. While speaking on the phone many people participate in other activities such as checking email, reading newspapers and other activities that distract from the conversation. Even in a face to face situation many listeners zone out by either thinking about their response to the speaker or daydreaming about something completely off topic. By allowing yourself to be distracted, you are not listening as well as you could be. Even just a small amount of distraction could result in you missing a critical point of the speaker’s presentation. Focusing 100% on the speaker, however, will ensure that you are listening well and taking in all of the pertinent information.

Part of being a good listener is making sure that everything you hear comes directly from the speaker and not from your interpretation of their words. This means that as the speaker is talking, listen to the words as they are being spoken instead of trying to guess the point that the speaker is trying to make. Many people are guilty of jumping to conclusions this way and this hurts their listening ability. People who do this often don’t hear the speaker’s message because it is blocked out by their own assumptions. Good listeners take in information as the words are spoken instead of thinking ahead and forming their own conclusions.

Creating mental images of the speaker’s words is another way to become a better listener. This visualization process allows you to really comprehend the words you are hearing. Visualization techniques can enhance the way that people process information. These mental images will help you to retain the information you have just heard and this enhanced comprehension makes you a better listener.

Asking questions that relate to the speaker’s presentation can also help you to become a better listener. It’s important to ask questions without allowing the formulation of the questions to interfere with your listening. If you latch onto one of the speaker’s key points and spend the rest of the conversation thinking up a question you will miss a lot of information. However, if you ask your questions immediately when they arise, you can have them answered in the context of the presentation without having it affect your listening abilities. Asking questions is an important part of listening because it lets the speaker know that you are following what he is saying and that you are interested in learning more about the topic.

Being mindful of your body language is another way to be a good listener. Be sure to not engage in body language that tells the speaker that you are not interested in their words. Crossing your arms, avoiding eye contact and wincing are all ways that you can send a message to a speaker that you are not listening carefully to them. These mannerisms can result in the conversation being cut short because the speaker does not feel you are interested in what they are saying.

Practicing your listening skills is another way to become a better listener. Make a conscientious effort to apply your listening skills each time you speak to someone or attend a presentation. You can practice your listening skills by remaining completely focused on the conversation or presentation, not trying to guess what the speaker is about to say, creating mental images of the spoken words and asking pertinent questions to affirm what you have just heard. Each time you have the opportunity to listen try to work on these elements.

While listening skills are not as widely practiced as speaking skills, they are just as important to a conversation. Being a good listener will not only ensure that you are receiving information but will affirm to the speaker that you care about the information being presented and that you understand their message.

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Dress them up with the best baby clothes

Babies are bundles of joy so it is not surprising why everyone from the nuclear to immediate family gets all excited over the prospect of raising the newest addition to the family. For some, even the neighbors, who have become like family, share in all the anticipation. There is still nothing though that can match the enthusiasm of the parents of the child but most especially of the mother to be.

There are so many preparations to be made and even if the mother to be feels uneasy or a bit uncomfortable because of the additional weight she is carrying in her womb she is still ready to be up and about when it comes to baby preparations. And one of the most exciting parts of baby preparations is buying tons of baby clothes.

It is proven that baby clothes are one of the tops sellers in department stores and malls in any part of the world. This is the reason why big clothing companies decide to have their own line of baby clothes. More than this, there are also the brands that specialize in just baby clothes and the stores of these brands are just as big and saleable as that of the clothing brands for kids and adults. There are also known designer baby clothes and we usually hear these brands worn by celebrity kids especially those celebrities that are fashion conscious themselves. There is Anne Geddes in the United States of America and Tutti Bella for the Europeans. These brands became big by only selling baby stuff but primarily their line of baby clothes are the best in the industry.

One might argue that babies are not choosy about clothes in fact they are too young to care about fashion but precisely that is why baby clothes are a hit because the parents who want only the best for their babies are the one deciding. Another thing that can be raised is that why buy expensive clothes when in fact babies outgrow these clothes so fast but then again parents’ pride in their kids during the baby stage rests not on how intelligent or talented their kids are but rather on how cute their babies are so they have to make sure that their baby clothes highlight the best physical attributes of their little ones.

There are many kinds of baby clothes but parents need not buy all the kinds of baby clothes available in the market. We will run down the baby clothes that will be of most use to babies. First there are baby clothes based on gender. The usual baby clothes for boys are colored blue and for the girl baby clothes pink but more and more parents are now being open to buying unisex baby clothes which is really a good idea. Unisex baby clothes will send the message that there are no limitations to being a boy or being a girl.

Babies should always have a set of playwear and sleepwear because playing and sleeping are two of babies’ favorite activities. The key to choosing baby clothes for playing and sleeping is that clothes should be comfortable but of course there should also be style because there is nothing wrong with teaching babies the best way to dress up. As they say it is better to start them young.

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A Little Goes a Long Way

Relationships are never always easy. It is normal to hit some bumps in the road or to even have long stretches where you and your partner have a hard time connecting. Couples who are lucky enough to seem to get along more often than not have probably discovered a little secret early on in their marriage. That secret is to show love and affection in little ways often- not always in big ways when things seem to be going badly or when an apology is in order!

Imagine stopping on the way home from work and picking wildflowers from alongside the road for your spouse. She may have had a difficult day on the job, the kids were trying her patience or you both simply seem to have lost your intimacy lately. If you were to walk in the door with a fist full of wildflowers you took the time to select just for her on the way home; you will have broken the surrounding atmosphere with love and consideration. You both have the opportunity to start fresh with that one, small yet powerful gesture.

If you are going out of town or simply feel like ‘ships passing in the night’ because of kids, commitments or work, find a sun catcher, charm or porcelain figure in the shape of a star or a shooting star. Wrap the trinket in a small gift box and fold a note on top of it that says, “Wish you were here” and place it in his or her travel bag or even in a briefcase or purse. When he or she finds it and knows that you are missing them and thought enough to share that sentiment, it will stir emotions that may not have been awakened in some time.

In order to change tedious or tired routines or to inspire intimacy, you might be surprised at how little effort is required. Tape a note on the television that says, “Wouldn’t you rather turn me on?” instead. If he or she is enjoying a good book, remove the bookmark and replace it with a note that says, “I bet you’ll never guess where I’ve hidden your bookmark.”

Remember the small things you used to do when you first got together that would make your heart flutter and put a twinkle in your eye? Do them again! When you go shopping, for a walk or you’re just sitting together watching TV, hold hands, link arms or put your arm around her. Softly whisper “Hey” into his or her ear and gaze lovingly into each other’s eyes. If he or she wants to know what you are doing, simply say that you are amazed at how much you love them.

These simple, small acts can really go far when it comes to sparking a little romance in your marriage. They can break the monotony of a relationship or help your partner to feel appreciated and loved. You can expect to feel the same in return!

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10 No-Stress First Date Ideas

Asking a person out can be stressful enough but once you’ve found someone to agree to going on a date with you, you may find yourself under the immense pressure of planning a first date. Planning a first date can be stressful because you want everything to go smoothly and you also want to set yourself up for a second date. The ideal first date offers the couple a chance to get to know each other in a casual atmosphere that doesn’t put too much pressure on them to keep up a constant stream of small talk. While first dates are the perfect opportunity to get to know someone new, if you are apprehensive about too much conversation on the first date, you can plan a date that focuses more on an activity than on conversation. This type of date which focuses on a fun filled activity may be beneficial in leading to a second date. First dates don’t have to be stressful and there are many activities that are perfect for whatever type of first date you are looking to have.

Dinner theater is a perfect no-stress first date idea. The atmosphere is usually cozy and romantic and provides the perfect blend of conversation and entertainment. While a traditional dinner date can lead to awkward pauses in the conversation and the stress of juggling dinner and conversation, a dinner theater alleviates this stress because the meal is usually served during the performance. This allows you to eat your meal without having to worry about small talk. Intermissions are a great opportunity for the couple to get to know each other and if you have trouble with a conversation starter you can always fall back on talking about the performance.

Another no-stress first date idea is the aquarium or a museum. The casual atmosphere alleviates the normal pressures of first dates. There is so much to see and do at these facilities that you will not be lacking things to talk about or do. You can spend a few hours wandering through the exhibits and really get to know your date. Be sure to ask questions about what your date likes or doesn’t like about the exhibits. Being inquisitive will give you a better understanding of your date’s personality.

Theme parks are also a great no-stress first date idea. Everybody loves the chance to be a kid again and the opportunity to spend a day on thrill rides is a great way to spend a first date. The long lines give you plenty of time to talk and get to know each other and you may find that every time the conversation starts to wane, you’ve made it to the front of the line and it’s your turn to jump onboard and enjoy the ride. The exhilaration of thrill rides may loosen inhibitions and bring a couple on a first date closer together.

If you are nervous about conversation, you might want to try the traditional movie and dinner first date. The movie portion of the date takes the stress of conversation off of your shoulders and afterwards at dinner you have an instant conversation starter. If you can’t think of anything to talk about, you can always ask her what she thought of the movie to spark up a conversation. Additionally you may find that after spending a few hours in a theater you already feel closer to your date and conversation comes easier than anticipated.

If conversation is your strong point and you’re are not at all worried about keeping a conversation going a great no-stress date idea for you may be a coffee shop. This is an environment where there is little to do except talk to your date. This is perfect for the person who enjoys the art of conversation and is really looking forward to getting to know their date.

A white water rafting trip can be a terrific no-stress date idea. Well, it may not be completely no-stress as the rapids can get pretty intense but it can be free of dating stress. Rafting is a fun an adventurous activity where you have the opportunity to bond by working together to navigate your raft through rapids and enjoy the excitement of riding the rapids. If you are not an experienced rafter, be sure to arrange to have this trip professionally guided so that you are not putting yourself in danger.

Still another no-stress first date idea is to spend some time volunteering. You can make arrangements for you and your date to spend a few hours volunteering at either a soup kitchen or an animal shelter or any other non-profit organization you like. This situation gives you a specific task to focus on and takes the stress off of the date. It also gives you the opportunity to see whether or not your date is interested in helping others or not. Make sure to check into this activity ahead of time because many places will not allow you to come in to volunteer unless you have completed a short introductory class beforehand.

Taking a course can be another great no-stress first date idea. Many colleges offer courses on a variety of subjects and you are bound to find one that will be of interest to you. For example a cooking class might be a fun first date idea. You will have the opportunity to learn a new skill together and will probably leave at the end of the night with a really tasty dish that you can enjoy together. Working together will alleviate the stress of a first date and will give you the opportunity to get to know each other in a casual environment.

Many cities offer singles or couples group bike rides or hikes. Taking advantage of one of these opportunities can lead to a no-stress first date. These activities can be fun because you are outdoors enjoying nature and you have the opportunity to get some exercise. These activities also often include scheduled breaks in a scenic location which can be a great time to really talk to your date and get to know them a little.

One final no-stress first date idea is a trip to a fun center that offers mini-golf and arcade games. Engaging in a game of miniature golf or squaring off by playing some video games is a fun and competitive way to spend your first date. The activities are lighthearted and fun and introducing the element of competition really loosens people up so you and your date will probably have an easy time getting to know each other.

The key to a successful first date is to plan activities that are fun and entertaining without placing too much pressure on the couple. Finding relaxing ways to get to know your date will ensure that your first date is a no-stress event that leads to a second date. A completely no-stress date is one that both parties enjoy and one that allows the couple to engage in a balance of fun activity and meaningful conversation without putting too much emphasis on any one aspect of the date.

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